I have a lot of questions that I'm going to address one by one, so just bear with me if I rant for too long on something that you may feel isn't even remotely related to what happens in "Life" in general. But that's what we are all here to do isn't it, just talk about things that we think are pertinent to our lives and see whether those are in someone else's life too, to stay relevant in theirs? Maybe! Anyway, even if it doesn't matter, I will dive right into it and let you figure out the interpretation part of it on your own!
People experience success, right? Oh boy they do, a lot! I feel like I have always had more successful people around me than me in almost all areas of life. So from what I have heard from people, it comes at a cost. It's more difficult to stay successful than to be one! But why? Getting successful, is it difficult to keep gaining or is it difficult to keep losing something in order to stay that way? What is it that successful people lose? When I try to answer this question in my mind, I think of success as being knowledgeable/skillful in a certain topic/field. If you are skilled to make money, getting rich is success for you. If some art, then being best performer in that is success, and if a researcher maybe understanding your field is success. But as you climb up the ladder, does it get lonelier? If you want to get better in the field, you have to keep talking to the people who are better in it and remain less approachable for the people around you. "Expert" in the field is only valuable when there are less people like him/her present in the world. But is this true? Or am I missing something?
Another thing about people generally, is they only have a conversation until they "agree" on something or they both have exact same information about the subject at hand. Of course you will say, you can change the subject and again talk to the same person or change the person and talk about the same subject! But think about it, if there's no difference of opinion in the society, will there be a conversation at all? To take it one step further, will we even talk with ourselves if we agree with what's going on in our mind! So basically if you want to stay social, you have to "disagree" with people — a little bit at least, just to keep the conversation interesting! Really? Not sure, but isn't a complete nonsense, right?!
People complain about having low attention span these days, I do too! Not sure what made it like that, and I'm not going to delve into the effect of social media on us etc! Anyway so, my point is, what is it exactly that we notice the most, even in such a short attention span? It's the discomfort! If you are wearing a shoe, you will only notice it if it's uncomfortable and we will forget about it once the comfort kicks in! It is the same with moments in life or even the feelings that we experience. We can almost never hold on to something that's a good moment as doing it mostly ruins that moment itself!
Imagine this strange scenario, admitting that say this right now is the best moment of life to yourself follows an immediate thought that no moment further in life would be this good or wasn't in the past — and then that thought stays with you longer than the original happier one! Maybe this is over-analysing, of course it is, but I climb the hills of happiness and fall in the valleys of sorrow almost every week so I am used to those shifts by now!
I think the way to live life is to have floating interests always. No don't marry a hundred women or change careers daily, not saying that. But shift to a different activity before this one gets really boring! Changing phases, I think that's the key for being content. Staying transient, staying unstable is what it is out there. People misunderstand when they think stability is what one should achieve to get to happiness. Nooo! The process, is the fun part. Destination never had anything in the past nor will it have a lot of future. Setting goals is only necessary to build a journey I guess.
Having lack of clarity is what makes us ask questions, and asking questions only starts a conversation — so let's ask so many that nobody will answer and keep talking nonsense, then thou shall be happy! Really? Not sure! Let's try and see no?!